Every core person we have needs two things:
- Training
- Developing
Training is when you teach a person to do a specific job or task.
- Teach them the steps and expectations you have for that specific job or task.
- Train well.
- Best way to train someone:
- Let them watch you do it.
- You do it with them.
- You watch them do it.
Developing is when you are pouring into their life to make a difference in all areas of their life not simply the task you asking them to do.
- We care more about who they are becoming than just what they are doing.
- Ways to develop your core.
- Teach them how to handle conflict.
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- The difference between expectation and reality = conflict.
- Practice God’s method of conflict resolution. (Mathew 18:15, NKJV)
- If you have a problem with someone, go to that person.
- Slander – When you get through talking, the person you were talking to thinks less of the person you were talking about.
- Gossip – when you share something with someone that is not part of the problem or the solution. (Proverbs 11:13, NIV)
- Slander and gossip hurts the person doing the slandering and gossiping more than the one they are slandering and gossiping about. (Ephesians 4:29-30, KJV)
- The real damage of slander and gossip it grieves the Holy Spirit and limits the power of God in our life and prayers.
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- Teach them why attitude is important.
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- Since an attitude often is expressed by our body language and facial expressions, it can be contagious.
- Learn to control the Holy Spirit that lives in you and you can learn to control your attitude. (Philippians 2:5, TLB; Galatians 5:22-23, TLB; Genesis 4:6-7, CEV)
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- Teach them how simple it is to go from being ordinary to extraordinary.
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- The person who comes early, works just a little harder, has a better attitude.
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- Teach them contentment. (Philippians 4:11, NKJV)
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- Contentment is learning to focus on all God’s given you—realizing that God has provided everything that I need for my present happiness.
- Discontentment results from focusing on all you don’t have.
- Contentment is learned as we realize our purpose and begin to live it out wherever we are whatever we are doing.
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- Teach them how to have the abundant life. (John 10:10, NKJV; 1 Corinthians 2:9, AMP)
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- Love God.
- Promptly Obey God.
- Be grateful for what God has done.
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- Teach them two insights on marriage.
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- The main purpose of marriage is not to simply satisfy your mate but to help sharpen them. (Two become one) (Matthew 19:5-6, NKJV0
- Spiritual growth is the only guarantee life is going to get better.
- The main purpose of marriage is not to make the other person happy, but help them become holy.
- Married couples have to learn to LOVE each other not simply LUST each other.
- Lust is focused on what they can get instead of what they can give.
- Love focuses on what you can give not what you can get.
- No one can satisfy you apart from right relationship with Jesus Christ. (Matthew 6:33, NKJV)
- The main purpose of marriage is not to simply satisfy your mate but to help sharpen them. (Two become one) (Matthew 19:5-6, NKJV0
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- Teach them about finance. (Matthew 6:21, NKJV)
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- You need a budget.
- You need to learn to live in that budget.
- Tithe 10%, Save 10%, spend 80% –a starting place.
- If you can’t do this, you have to learn how to make more money or cut back on what you spend.
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- Teach them how to rebound. (Proverbs 24:16, NKJV; 1 Samuel 30:6, KJV)
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- You will fall and get discouraged—learn to encourage yourself.
- You can’t totally depend on others to encourage you, but you can always depend on God to encourage you.
- People will disappoint you and even discourage you, but only you can make the decision to stay discouraged. (1 Corinthians 2:5, NKJV)
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