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Passion with Purpose
Passion will give the vision energy. Passion gives not only starting power, but staying power. If your passion is right you actively support what you’re passionate about. Passion during stress. We don’t need to reduce stress, we need to increase our passion about the...
Connect
You must connect with Jesus. It’s not about proximity with God, it’s simply being available to God. We can’t get much closer than having Him living in us and promising never to leave us. (Hebrews 13:5-6, NKJV; Revelation 3:20, NKJV) If you’re a Christian, even when...
Cause and the Cure
The main cause of conflict. (Ephesians 4:26-27, CEV; James 4:1-2, NCV) The main cause of fights and arguments come from selfish desires that war within us all. The flesh is natural and the spirit is supernatural. The real cure is when you come to the point that you...
How to Get Back on Track
The motivation factor in your marriage can’t be your mate, but the Lord! (Matthew 6:33, NKJV; Matthew 22:36-40, NKJV) Men are superior to women. (1 Peter 3:7, NKJV) You need a mission mindset. (Psalm 127:1, NKJV) Calendar guarantee – you get older; Growth guarantee –...
Myths and Truths About Marriage
Relationship Truths. Independent: Living as one, but both living separate lives. (1 Peter 3:7, NKJV) Co-dependent: Dependent on one another, if one crashes they both crash. Excessive caretaking. Difficulty setting boundaries. Low self-esteem. Fear of abandonment....
The Secret Truth about All Problems
The condition of your heart greatly determines your actions, reactions, behavior, and joy in spite of your circumstances and situations. (Proverbs 4:23, NKJV) If you have any issues in life, it’s really a heart issue. Hard hearts hurt others, humble hearts help...
Keys to Better Communication
Learn how to communicate better. Release what you think you know. Intentionally release what you think God is going to tell you and listen for His voice. Receive - open your heart. Receive with an open heart before you respond in the conversation. Receive God’s Word...
Wrong Expectations
Your expectations need to come from God. (Psalm 62:5, KJV) If your expectations come from anyone other than God, you will live a roller coaster of a life. God is going to take care of you. Love your wife, kids, and friend but your expectations need to come from God...
Parental Impressions
Be careful when answering your children. Children’s first impression of God will be their parents, apart from transformation. God’s Word spoken to them with the wrong attitude will breed rebellion, not rewards. (Ephesians 6:4, TLB; James 1:26, ESV) Questions for you:...
Jesus Will Never Leave Us
Jesus understands how we feel in any situation. (Matthew 27:45-46, NLT) Jesus might not deliver us from the problem and pain, but He will never leave us or abandon us. (Hebrews 4:15-16, NKJV; Lamentations 3:22-23, NKJV) He will remove the pain or the problem. Give us...
Day 33: Love the Season
Debbie and I are in a new and exciting season of life. It is the first time I do not own or run businesses or have kids or grandkids living at home. It will be a GREAT season, but we have learned to enjoy every season. We have learned to enjoy the journey. My outlook...
Day 32: Prayers with Your Partner
The truth is most of my prayers with Debbie are at meals! We should pray more together; the sooner you start that, the better. You have some guidelines in the pages to follow. You could also pray blessings over them. Numbers 6:24-26 (GW) “The LORD will bless you and...
Day 31: Cure vs. Conflict
One night, When Debbie and I were first married, we got into a conflict that I thought I should have won, like always. We were still conversing when it became bedtime, so I decided to sleep on the couch. I thought she would tell me she was sorry the whole night and to...
Day 30: 6 Godly Purposes for Marriage
#1 - Companionship. True companionship grows out of the oneness of spirit. Amos 3:3 (NKJV) “Can two walk together unless they are agreed?” Companionship is about being good company for the person you’ve chosen to share your life with. Couples that are good companions...
Day 29: Knowing God’s Purpose for Marriage
The problem with knowing God’s purpose for marriage is most Christians and non-Christians do not know God’s primary purpose for marriage. As you read this chapter, you will learn at least six primary purposes for marriage. Before you read the chapter, why don’t you...
Day 28: 9 Applications for a Successful Marriage
#1 - Go to church together every Sunday apart from vacation and emergency. Psalm 127:1 (GW) “If the LORD does not build (your marriage) the house, it is useless for the builders to work on it. If the LORD does not protect a (your marriage) city, it is useless for the...
Day 27: How to Get Back on Track
This is a hard one for me because we loved each other before we got into church, but it was hard to stay on track. When you’re first married, you have great emotional love, but true, lasting love is more than an emotional love; it’s more an action. When we were first...
Day 26: How to Stop Showing Judgement & Condemnation
How can we stop judging others so much? How can we stop sowing judgment and condemnation? Assume the Best If you are about to get upset and start judging and condemning, stop and tell yourself, I will assume the best about that person and the situation. I wish I had...
Day 25: Sowing & Reaping of Marriage
How I wish I had known, believed, and applied this principle 50 years ago. In all honesty I believed give back what you’re getting and then some. I believed win at all costs. If Debbie raised her voice I could do it louder; if she was a little ugly (not saying she...
Day 24: AHM Relationships
Relationships are also known as AHM relationships. A-The couple has a strong couple identity but very little individual self-identity. They lean on one another: They are structured so that if one lets go, the other falls. H-Partners stand alone, each self-sufficient,...