The truth about communication is that I have written a lot of information about communication and better ways to communicate. But the truth is reading all this might not change your life, but love, humility, applying, and wanting to have oneness over winning, will change your life and communication skills.
The truth is many times I don’t apply what I write like I should. Many times, it is much easier to teach and preach than apply. But one thing is for sure I love my wife more than anything in the world next to Jesus Christ, even after 50 years, and when things are not right with us, things in life just don’t seem right. That’s what it means when two become one, when one is hurt or is upset so is the other one. It is hard to stay mad very long because it hurts me almost as bad or more than it hurts her, and it should. One of the real problems I see today is what so many couples call LOVE. They want love to be some kind of ongoing tingling, emotional feeling. Don’t get me wrong, if you are still in the dating stage and you don’t have some of those feelings, there is something wrong also.
Yet, the truth is, true Biblical lasting love is more an action than a feeling and emotion. I do believe if you continue the right love actions repeated over a long period of time, emotions and feelings will come.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NCV) “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. Love is not rude, is not selfish, and does not get upset with others. Love does not count up wrongs that have been done. Love is not happy with evil but is happy with the truth. Love patiently accepts all things. It always trusts, always hopes, and always remains strong. Love never ends.”
If this is true Biblical love, and it is, I can tell you I don’t always feel like being patient, kind, not bragging, and not being proud. Yes, sometimes I’m rude; yes, sometimes I’m selfish; yes, sometimes I get upset (let’s say there are times I get upset), and I’m not as patient as I should be. But, one thing is for sure My Love Never Ends!
Not only does Love Never End, I never want it to. So, what I need to do is learn God’s Word is true not me, and when I’m wrong learn to admit it. In the following chapters, I will give you many tools to help you communicate better, but there is no better tool than the Bible.
If you wanted to, you could both agree that when you get upset, you are going to admit the Bible is right and whatever it says you will both agree on it! Your marriage and life would be so much better.
Let me give you a few verses on how to be happy.
Matthew 5:5 (TEV) “Happy are those who are humble.”
Matthew 5:9 (TEV) “Happy are those who work for peace.”
Psalm 144:15 (NKJV) “Happy are the people whose God is the LORD!”
Psalm 40:4 (NCV) “Happy is the person who trusts the LORD.”