Giving and Receiving Feedback

by | Leadership Lifters

Feedback is ongoing, correction should not be.

Feedback is to help each other grow.

Correction is to change wrong behavior.

Questions to ask when giving and receiving feedback:

Am I doing this out of love?

Do I have peace about it? (Colossians 3:14-15, NKJV)

Do I want the best for the other person? (Philippians 2:3-4, NCV)

Am I doing what’s best for the overall organization or church?

Why someone will not receive or give feedback.

Pride. (Proverbs 13:10, CEV)

      1. Thinking you and your opinion is more important than others.
      2. Reserving for yourself the right to make final decisions.
      3. Believing that you achieved what God and others have done for you.

    If you don’t give feedback:

      1. You think the other person will not receive it.
      2. You don’t think your opinion is valuable enough.
      3. You fear confrontation.

      Low E.Q.

      • 4 emotional skills to improve EQ:
          1. Self-Awareness – leaning into discomfort – learn what you can improve.
          2. Self-Management – using awareness of your emotions to choose what you say and do in order to positively direct your behavior.
          3. Social Management – knowing what the other person is trying to communicate to you – you focus more on the other person than yourself.
          4. Relationship Management – use the first 3 skills together – adjust behavior to impact other people to develop relationships.

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