Feedback is ongoing, correction should not be.
Feedback is to help each other grow.
Correction is to change wrong behavior.
Questions to ask when giving and receiving feedback:
Am I doing this out of love?
Do I have peace about it? (Colossians 3:14-15, NKJV)
Do I want the best for the other person? (Philippians 2:3-4, NCV)
Am I doing what’s best for the overall organization or church?
Why someone will not receive or give feedback.
Pride. (Proverbs 13:10, CEV)
- Thinking you and your opinion is more important than others.
- Reserving for yourself the right to make final decisions.
- Believing that you achieved what God and others have done for you.
If you don’t give feedback:
- You think the other person will not receive it.
- You don’t think your opinion is valuable enough.
- You fear confrontation.
- 4 emotional skills to improve EQ:
- Self-Awareness – leaning into discomfort – learn what you can improve.
- Self-Management – using awareness of your emotions to choose what you say and do in order to positively direct your behavior.
- Social Management – knowing what the other person is trying to communicate to you – you focus more on the other person than yourself.
- Relationship Management – use the first 3 skills together – adjust behavior to impact other people to develop relationships.