The main cause of conflict. (Ephesians 4:26-27, CEV; James 4:1-2, NCV)
The main cause of fights and arguments come from selfish desires that war within us all.
The flesh is natural and the spirit is supernatural.
The real cure is when you come to the point that you are both willing to get God involved in the fight. (James 4:2-3, NCV)
Many couples falsely believe it’s their mates’ job to satisfy them.
The purpose of relationship is not simply to satisfy you but to sharpen you.
What’s the cause of the fight right now?
Become aware of why you are really fighting and arguing.
Evaluate the real cause. (Psalm 139:23-24, NKJV; Jeremiah 29:13, NCV; 2 Corinthians 13:5-7, NCV)
Evaluate if you are living by the fruit of the Spirit. (Galatians 5:22-23; James 1:22-24; Romans 12:2; Lamentations 3:40)
Agree on the right action; Correct the wrong behavior with the right action.
Ask God to monitor your mouth. (Psalm 141:3, NKJV)