Imposter Behavior.
You pose as someone or something that you perceive as better than the real you.
While the real you is imperfect, it is the best you.
Work in progress but you can’t make progress if you don’t give yourself permission to be the real you.
Defensive Behavior.
Defensiveness is a dead giveaway.
When you are defensive you are protecting yourself, your idea, or something you feel is yours.
The only reason to protect yourself is if you are insecure about what might happen to you, how you may be perceived, or your notion that you have been reduced as a person.
Instead of letting defensiveness get the best of you—wait before you speak—it’s better to wait a day and come back to the conversation.
Unhealthy Competition.
Competition is good and normal—but is can become unhealthy.
When you find yourself unable to cheer for a fellow staff member, pastor, or another church who is experiencing success that you aren’t –that’s unhealthy.
Unhealthy competition gnaws at you on from the inside and it will make you behave differently.
Taking yourself too seriously.
Healthy principle to live out— “Let’s take God seriously, but don’t take ourselves too seriously.”
If you are thin-skinned, oversensitive, and can’t laugh at yourself, you will have difficulty as a leader.
We are all imperfect, that’s what makes us unique and special.
Performance Oriented.
If you get caught up in the performance trap, your experience is that nothing is ever enough.
If you attempt to overcome insecurity by achievement, there is no end to that vicious circle.
When you are freed up to be you, you will become good at what you do—you don’t need to perform.