5 Steps to Leading With Grace and Peace

by | Leadership Lifters

Leadership is Influence. Everything rises and falls on leadership, everything.

Let God carry what you can’t carry. (Ephesians 1:2)

    • Most leaders today acknowledge some level of inner unrest, an uneasiness within them.
    • It’s not the everyday stress that comes with solving problems and making progress. It’s something deeper.
    • Some leaders say they feel “powerless” right now like they really can’t change anything.
    • The good news; we are not powerless as leaders to affect change right now. Your voice and leadership matter. It’s all about the source.
    • The source is God, our Father, and the Lord Jesus Christ, which is the source of your spiritual power.
    • Sometimes we run so fast we forget the source of grace and peace and must remember to let God carry what we can’t carry.
    • God wants us in the game, but He brings the power.
    • God carries what we can’t carry.

It’s necessary to live grace and peace before you lead it.
(Ephesians 4:2-3)

      • When you stay connected to the source, God, you can then experience grace and peace yourself.
      • This is the foundation of your spiritual leadership.
      • Living out God’s grace and peace in your soul isn’t easy while you are leading the church today.
        1. You are under pressure.
        2. Expectations are unclear.
        3. And the new normal isn’t here yet.
      • It requires three things:
        1. Slowing down – taking time to be quiet, to think, and pray is essential.
        2. Trusting deep – It’s vital to trust now more than ever that God is with you, regardless of what you face.
        3. Taking risks – stepping out, speaking up, and taking action brings God’s power into your leadership.
      • God’s grace and power within you enable humility, gentleness, patience, and love. This can influence unity and peace among those you lead.

Pre-determine that no matter what happens around you, you will hold firm to your spiritual character.

    • We all face things like:
      1. Financial problems.
      2. People conflict.
      3. Unrest in your city.
    • But before tomorrow’s problems arrive, you can commit to grace and peace today.
    • You can choose that no matter what happens tomorrow, you will hold firm to your spiritual character.
    • The enemy wants to attack your character much more than your talent and skills. If he can crack your character, your skill level doesn’t matter very much.
    • If the devil can trip you up at a character level, it’s easy to knock you down at a skill level.
    • The responsibility to solve these problems tends to “squeeze” you and therefore add pressure and stress to your life.
    • The enemy can use all this to cause you to drift from your spiritual standards (in an often unrealized) attempt to relieve pressure, but you can hold steady by staying connected to God.
    • Distraction, busyness, and isolation will often break your connection with God.
    • The key is you must pre-determine that choice.

Understand the problem before you offer a solution.

    • As leaders, we can quickly grasp the larger idea of grace and peace.
    • But the person you are dealing with who is upset, confused, hurting, or angry is not connected, at least at the moment, the way you are.
    • As the leader, you must absorb some of the heat of the moment to understand and connect with the person and what is upsetting them before you present a solution.
    • Even if you disagree with their position or sense you know the solution, it’s important to extend grace before attempting peace.
    • If you jump to the solution, even a correct and biblical solution, before the person feels you understand, you risk the possibility of making the problem worse, not better.
    • Again, even if you disagree, you may learn something that helps increase your compassion, which always makes the truth easier to accept.
    • Culturally speaking, even the definition of grace and peace is up for grabs. Don’t assume anything; establish understanding first.

Choose your words wisely. (Colossians 4:5-6)

    • Four great keys in these two verses:
      1. Wisdom
        • We are invited into the very wisdom of God, who, in His kindness, makes available to us through His Spirit. We must only ask.
      2. Opportunity
        • We must ask for wisdom and look for opportunities.
        • Sometimes, it seems like opportunities to advance the gospel just “appear”. But more often, opportunities are consistently before us, and we tend to find what we are looking for.
      3. Grace
        • “Let your conversation always be full of grace, seasoned with salt.”
        • Each word you choose can make a difference between someone experiencing grace and knowing peace.
      4. Response
        • In the end, we do have an answer, as guided by biblical principles and the Holy Spirit’s prompting.
        • That’s the core of spiritual leadership.
        • You get to influence each person for their good and God’s glory.

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