10 Relationship Essentials

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Leadership is Influence. Everything rises and falls on leadership, everything.

 10 Relationship Essentials:

  1. Treat people with respect.
  2. Express appreciation.
  3. Encourage often and generously.
  4. Give the benefit of the doubt.
  5. Look for the best in every person.
  6. Practice kindness naturally.
  7. Listen well.
  8. Live with a generous spirit.
  9. Own your mistakes.
  10. Genuinely care about people. 

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