Creating a Marriage that Lasts

It’s what you do after you say ‘I do’ that makes the difference.

“Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Eph. 5:33

The truths in this book are an accumilation of years of research, marriage counseling, personal experience and biblical insight. I hope that you and your spouse would use this book to grow closer to each other as well as closer to God. This book can be a great investment into your future.

In Christ,
Pastor James

Eph. 3:20

Creating a Marriage that Lasts Devotion

We have 3 ways for you to access the “Creating a Marriage that Lasts” devotion: 1) Get a text everyday for 22 days 2) Download a PDF version and Print 3) View all of the daily devotions below on the website.

6 Purposes of Marriage

6 Purposes of Marriage

Companionship True companionship grows out of a oneness of spirit. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3) Enjoyment The principle behind enjoyment is self-control. “Marriage is honoable (of great worth) in all, and the bed (should be kept)...

Fight the Good Fight: 5 Simple Steps to Start Us Off

Fight the Good Fight: 5 Simple Steps to Start Us Off

#1 - Pray for each other the next 30+ days. (1 Thessalonians 5:16-19, NKJV; Galatians 5:22-23, NKJV) We need to be thanking God and rejoicing for our marriages.When we quench the Holy Spirit, it reduces the love, joy, and peace we have in our marriages. The very...

The True Definition of Love

The True Definition of Love

The True Definition of Love 1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-9 #1 - LOVE SUFFERS LONG It is slow to lose patience. Doesn’t demonstrate irritations, or reflect anger, or have a quick temper. Has fully accepted the character of the mate. #2 - IT IS KIND It looks for a way of being...

How to Make the Relationship You Have, The Relationship You Want

How to Make the Relationship You Have, The Relationship You Want

1 Corinthians 7:17-24 (NIV) One of the problems in marriage is that we want more control over the other person but what God wants is for us to yield more control to Him. What you don’t allow God to control will get out of control. Your mate is your special assignment...

Secrets to a Successful Marriage

Secrets to a Successful Marriage

Secrets to a Successful Marriage Songs of Songs 5:16, NKJV; Proverbs 5:18-19, NKJV To have a Great Marriage you will have to know what real Biblical Love is. There is a difference between love and lust. Please see handout (Genuine Love). Lust is using someone as an...

A Marriage that Lasts

A Marriage that Lasts

Priority determines Blessing, Direction, and Destiny Confusion comes from wrong priorities in our life. Confused marriages come from wrong priorities. Confused finances come from wrong priorities. Confused physically comes from wrong priorities. Confused spiritually...

6 Steps to Help Priorities in Your Love Life

6 Steps to Help Priorities in Your Love Life

Step #1: Put Love First. Talk Charge – Have loving personal talks with your spouse five times each day for a minimum of one minute. Super Talk Charge – Have a loving personal talk with your spouse once each week for a minimum of 25 minutes. Touch Charge – Make loving...

7 Steps to Improving Your Marriage

7 Steps to Improving Your Marriage

Step #1 – Focus on being the right person, instead of trying to change the other person. Step #2. -  Begin to fix your hopes and dreams on God and seek to please Him Step #3 – Agree to work on the real problem. Connect in love before addressing the problems, pains,...

6 Steps to Improve Marriage Satisfaction

6 Steps to Improve Marriage Satisfaction

Step 1: Change the Focus Reframe the conversation away from being about what your spouse is or isn’t doing to thinking about your relationship together. Marriage is about the bond. Focus on your connection and NOT on what each of you are getting or not getting from...

Who Are You and How Did You Get There

Who Are You and How Did You Get There

Truths to Consider: When we don’t know who we are and how we got there, we spend much of our life and marriage trying to be someone we are not. We become who we were around (parent-grandparent-greatest influence) God + others = decisions we make and wo we often think...

The Truth About Conflict

The Truth About Conflict

Conflict -- two or more people trying to occupy the same space or control the same resources. Learning to handle conflict correctly is the tunnel to intimacy. (1 Corinthians 14:32 33, NKJV)  Believe that every conflict can be resolved if both parties want to follow...

My Never Again List

My Never Again List

Never again will I confess that “I can’t” for “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13) Never again will I confess fear for “God hath not given me the spirit of fear but of power, and of love, and of a sound min.” (2 Timothy 1:7)...

7 Essential Qualities for and Exceptional Marriage

7 Essential Qualities for and Exceptional Marriage

#1 - Exceptional relationship with Christ. (Psalm 27:1; Matthew 6:33) #2 - Exceptional acceptance of self. (Who you really are in Christ) #3 - Exceptional Spirit of Forgiveness. (Forgiveness of self and all others) #4 - Exceptional Moral Freedom. #5 - Exceptional...

Humility

Humility

Humility “Not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.” Be humble or stumble. Relationships will crumble. Humility is the basis and foundation of every great marriage, and every great friendship. In humility, you treat others with respect and honor....

Learn to Fight Fair

Learn to Fight Fair

Conflict -- two or more people trying to occupy the same space or control the same resources. Learning to handle conflict correctly is the tunnel to intimacy. (1 Corinthians 14:32 33, NKJV)  Believe that every conflict can be resolved if both parties want to follow...

God’s Created Order for Marriage

God’s Created Order for Marriage

God has got to be first in the order. (Colossians 1:16-18, NKJV; Colossians 1:17, NLT) Who created Marriage? God Who holds it together? God How does God hold it together? He has to be before all things. When we obey, and live out that creative order we have order;...

Keys to Making Marriage Great

Keys to Making Marriage Great

Galatians 6:7, NKJV “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.” Keys to Making Marriages Great Again God has to be the ONLY SOURCE of meeting any and every need in your lie not your mate, job, or parents.  (Matthew 6:33)...

Marriage and Finances

Marriage and Finances

You don’t want anyone but God and your mate to have your heart. (Matthew 6:21, NKJV; Mark 4:19, NKJV, Mark 4:19, TLB; 1 Timothy 6:7-10, TLB) The treasures and pleasures of this world will fight for your heart, so you must learn to fight for your marriage. Finances are...

Outside Relationships Matter

Outside Relationships Matter

Do they motivate me to love God more? (Hebrews 3:13, NIV) Do they celebrate God’s blessings in my life? (Proverbs 11:10, NLT) Do they have my back? (Proverbs 17:17, NIV) Do they hold me accountable out of love and friendship? (Proverbs 27:6, NIV) Do they live what...

God’s Prescription for Lasting Relationships

God’s Prescription for Lasting Relationships

The Context of God’s Prescription When God establishes a personal relationship with us, his Spirit seals and adopts us into a brand-new, Christ-centered life. We are instructed to rely on spiritual power we’ve never had before as we speak, work, relate, and grow in...

12 Habits that Lead to Divorce and How to Avoid Them!

12 Habits that Lead to Divorce and How to Avoid Them!

Constant criticism can lead to divorce. (Ephesians 4:29, TLB; Ephesians 4:31-32, TLB) One of the biggest “warning lights” in a marriage is a tone of constant criticism. When a husband and wife start being each other’s biggest critics instead of the biggest encouragers...

Wrong Expectations

Wrong Expectations

It’s a dangerous thing to: Place our emotional stability in the hands of people. Allow those who know us the least to define us the most. Believe what others say about us rather than what God says about us. Wrong expectations are what cause us to have an offense....

Will We Be Married in Heaven

Will We Be Married in Heaven

What does the Bible say about Marriage in Heaven? (Luke 20:34-35, NKJV) No, you won’t be married, but how you live while you’re married will greatly affect your rewards in heaven. No, you won’t, but how we live while married will greatly determine how well you live in...

Marriage Assessment

Marriage Assessment

Start the Marriage Assessment below OR download and print. This assessment is 44 questions long and is meant to be done with your spouse.

Role Concept Comparison Assessment

Role Concept Comparison Assessment

MARRIAGE ROLE CONCEPTS COMPARISON What do you believe about your role in marriage?Answer Key: 1. Strongly agree 2. Mildly agree 3. Not sure 4. Mildly disagree 5. Strongly disagree The husband is the head of the home. The wife should not work outside of the home. The...