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It is hard to believe that conflict can turn into blessings but it’s true. God loves to take bad and turn it into good. Philippians 2:13-14 (NKJV) “For it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure. Do all things without complaining and...

Five Basic Needs of a Man: How you can show Respect #1- Physical fulfillment. Sex is the #1 need #2 - Recreational #3 - Attract a spouse #4 - Domestic support #5 - Admiration and respect: Build him up. Do not try to outdo him spiritually. Example: When he comes home...

#1 Words. Ecclesiastes 9:17 (NKJV) “Words of the wise, spoken quietly, should be heard rather than the shout of a ruler of fools.” Proverbs 18:21 (NKJV) “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 15:23 (KJV)  “A...

Most couples do not have a talking problem, they have a listening problem. Let’s unpack the 4 steps of Hi Def listening. Step #1: “Release” Release what you think you know. Release your assumptions. Release the stress of the day. Release your need to be right. Step...

When we are communicating without clarity, there will be carelessness. With clarity there will be completeness. When there is clarity, but things are not complete, there will be consequences and problems. Many times, what we call a problem results when one or the...

#1 - Learn How to communicate better.  We will talk more about that later. #2 - Learn When to communicate. When I say when, we are always talking, but we are not always communicating. I was out to eat at a very nice restaurant with my wife and without knowing it I...

We all know people we love but don’t really enjoy being around. We all need to learn how to communicate better. Marriage = Relationship Communication When I say marriage here, it applies to all relationships. I believe most couples love each other – even those having...

One of my greatest problems with communicating is not talking, it’s listening... this list is the R’s of communicating through listening! #1 - First step of listening is to Release. Release what you think you know. Release your assumptions. Release the stress of the...

The truth about communication is that I have written a lot of information about communication and better ways to communicate. But the truth is reading all this might not change your life, but love, humility, applying, and wanting to have oneness over winning, will...

The point is to become aware of not always trying to draw out equity without first putting it in. This applies mainly to day-to-day living. If we are not careful, life can become very routine and without meaning to you begin to take each other for granted. Your mate,...

When writing about wrong expectations being one of the #1 causes of offense, conflict, problems, etc... I almost started laughing to myself. What my expectations are now and what they were in my previous 50 + years are unbelievable. If only we could learn this early...