You’ll Only Grow to the Threshold of Your Pain

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You’ll Only Grow to the Threshold of Your Pain

Types of Leadership Pain

  • The pain of being misunderstood.
  • The pain of people leaving your church.
  • The pain of a staff member leaving and taking others with them.
  • The pain of deep disappointment.
  • The pain of carrying others pain—you can only carry so much yourself, you need someone who can walk the leadership journey with you.

Discomfort can be a Catalyst for Growth

It focuses us to change, stretch, and adapt.

  • See pain as your greatest teacher. Don’t avoid it, don’t minimize it, and don’t numb yourself to it.
    Instead ask God what He has in store and how you can learn and grow through it.
  • Let your vision drive you. Keep the vision fresh and strong.
  • Have a rigorous personal development plan.
  • No one experiences the success of leadership without also knowing pain.

The Disciplined Life vs The Un-Disciplined Life

There is Pain in the Disciplined Life and There is Pain in the Un-Disciplined Life.

The Pain of Staying the Same – Most people that have this pain don’t even realize it.
The Pain of Change

When the Pain of Staying the same is greater than the Pain of Change—you will begin to think about the
change—or you will change most the time. To some extent we get to choose our pain.

The leaders of larger organizations have proven they can handle more pain—bigger the organization the
bigger the pain – but GREATER THE GAIN.

What Does It Mean To Have a Disciplined Life?

  • Willing to give up things you love for things you love more.
  • Things you will have to give up to have a disciplined life: Time, Money, Friends & Family.
  • Being a Disciple comes as a result of a Disciplined Life. Luke 14:26, NKJV
  • The only true way to live a disciplined life is to understand the benefits of that type of life. Read Matthew 19:29-30, NKJV
  • We can never out give God.
  • There is a benefit here, now and in eternity.

Paul is a great example of a disciplined life.

  • Paul was always one who chose his pain—choose to live the Disciplined Life—or Disciple Life. Read 2
    Corinthians 11:23-27, TLB
  • Paul chose his pain, and because he did we are still learning and growing because of it.

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