Stress: How to Cope at the End of Your Rope

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What Is God’s Heart on Stress?

Stress can take us down one of two paths. For many, stress leads to unrest. Frustrations at work, responsibilities at home, deadlines at school, unfinished to-do lists, heartbreaking headlines, and troubled relationships all pile up to an overwhelming sense of weariness, exhaustion, pressure, and unrest. And the enemy wants to use the unrest to arrest you—to hold you captive to the pressures and stresses of life. But God’s plan—His path for stress—leads not to painful unrest but rather peaceful rest. The enemy wants to overwhelm you with unrest, but the Lord wants you to overcome with His rest. Stress is inevitable, but hope is available. If you want to find peace in times of stress, come to the Lord and find the rest you’re looking for in Him.

“Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” (Matthew 11:29 NLT)

God is with you in times of stress.

“Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” (IsaIah 41:10).

God sees and knows your stress.

“But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted; you consider their grief and take it in hand” (Psalm 10:14).

God wants to give you peace when your heart is troubled, stressed, and afraid.

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid” (John 14:27).

God wants to carry your burden and give you rest.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).

God wants to guide you when you’re too stressed to make decisions.

“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you” (Psalm 32:8).

God wants to strengthen you when you’re weak and weary.

“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak” (Isaiah 40:29).

God wants to deliver you from your stress.

“They cried out to the Lord in their trouble, and he delivered them from their distress” (Psalm 107:6).

God wants to comfort you in times of stress.

“I, yes I, am the one who comforts you” (IsaIah 51:12).

God wants to use your stress to increase your dependence on Him.

“We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself . . . But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead” (2 Corinthians 1:8–9).

God wants you to talk to Him about your stress and set you free.

“In my distress I prayed to the Lord, and the Lord answered me and set me free” (Psalm 118:5 NLT).

God wants you to trust Him and be a refuge for you in times of stress.

“Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge” (Psalm 62:8).

God wants you to worship Him and acknowledge His constant presence even in times of stress.

“I will build an altar to God, who answered me in the day of my distress and who has been with me wherever I have gone” (Genesis 35:3).

Key Verses to Memorize:

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28–30)

Key Passage to Read:

1 Kings 19:1–18

My Personalized Plan:

As I seek to manage the stress in my life, I will . . . Seek to Be Healthy

— I will eat healthy, get adequate sleep each night, avoid harmful substances, and exercise regularly (as I am able).

— I will get regular medical checkups and talk with my doctor about my stress if needed.

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies” (1 Corinthians 6:19–20).

Learn Relaxation Techniques

— I will learn breathing techniques and other exercises to calm myself down when I am stressed.

— I will take a time-out as needed to give myself a few minutes to calm down in stressful situations.

“I have calmed and quieted myself, I am like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child I am content” (Psalm 131:2).

Express My Emotions

— I will talk with a trusted friend or family member, wise counselor, and especially with God about my stress and emotions.

— I will journal my thoughts and feelings regularly, especially when I am stressed.

“In my distress I prayed to the Lord, and the Lord answered me and set me free” (Psalm 118:5 NLT).

Draw Near to God

— I will pray and read God’s Word daily, meditating on His truths and talking with Him honestly.

— I will attend church regularly to worship, receive encouragement from God’s Word, and be with other believers.

“All the believers devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and to fellowship, and to sharing in meals (including the Lord’s Supper), and to prayer” (Acts 2:42 NLT).

Keep Things in Perspective

— I will keep an eternal perspective and remember that my stress is temporary.

— I will remember God has promised me a future full of hope.

“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal” (2 Corinthians 4:16–18).

Replace Negative Thoughts

— I will identify negative thought patterns that lead me to feel more stress.

— I will replace negative thoughts with the truth of God’s Word.

“Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable— if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (Philippians 4:8).

Identify Triggers

— I will identify which situations, feelings, people, environments, and circumstances typically lead me to feel stressed.

— I will find healthy ways to prepare for and cope with those situations.

“Give careful thought to your ways” (Haggai 1:5).

Build Boundaries

— I will identify where I can create boundaries in my life to limit stressful interactions and prevent overextending myself.

— I will communicate my need for boundaries, time, and space as needed with the people in my life.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (PRoveRbs 4:23).

Take Time for Myself

— I will do at least one thing each day that brings me joy and gives me peace.

— I will take time to rest daily, weekly (Sabbath), and yearly (taking vacation time)—and not feel guilty about it.

“Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him” (Psalm 62:5).

Be in Community

— I will make time to be with friends and family to talk, share a meal together, or go out together.

— I will look into joining a local church, Bible study, book club, gym, exercise class, or other community group.

“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help” (Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 NLT).

Be Thankful

— I will write down a few things I am thankful for each day.

— I will give thanks to God for His many blessings and gracious gifts in my life.

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 thessalonIans 5:18).

Rest in My Identity in Christ

— I will remember my identity is not in my job, performance, work, ministry, or accomplishments.

— I will rest in God’s grace and find my identity in Christ as a beloved child of God.

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” (1 John 3:1).

Truth to Meditate on When You’re Stressed

God’s Word can be a great source of comfort when we are feeling stressed. By meditating on His truth, we can gain perspective and find peace. The Lord promises …

“You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!” (Isaiah 26:3 NLT)

“The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged” (DeuteRonomy 31:8).

“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace” (Numbers 6:24–26).

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness” (Jeremiah 31:3).

“The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside quiet waters. He restores my soul” (Psalm 23:1–3).

“The Lord gives strength to his people; the Lord blesses his people with peace” (Psalm 29:11).

“Be still, and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10).

“The Lord is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and rich in love. The LORD is good to all; he has compassion on all he has made” (Psalm 145:8–9).

“The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing” (Zephaniah 3:17 ESV).

“I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38–39 NLT).

“Now may our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and by his grace gave us eternal comfort and a wonderful hope, comfort you and strengthen you in every good thing you do and say” (2 Thessalonians 2:16–17 NLT).

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