Feedback is to help each other grow. Correction is to change wrong behavior. Feedback is ongoing; correction should not be.
Questions to ask when giving and receiving feedback: Am I doing this out of love? Do I have peace about it? Do I want the best for the other person? Am I doing what’s best for the overall organization or church?
Philippians 2:3, NKJV “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”
Why someone will not receive or give feedback. Pride is thinking you and your opinions are more important than others. It’s reserving for yourself the right to make final decisions, that you achieved what God and others have done for you. If you don’t give feedback, you may think the other person will not receive it, you don’t think your opinion is valuable enough, or you fear confrontation.
Definition of EQ: Emotional intelligence (otherwise known as emotional quotient or EQ) is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive way.
4 emotional skills to improve EQ.
#1 Self-Awareness – leaning into discomfort – learn what you can improve.
#2 Self-Management – using awareness of your emotions to choose what you say and do to positively direct your behavior.
#3 Social Awareness – knowing what the other person is trying to communicate to you – you focus more on the other person than yourself.
#4 Relationship Management – use the first 3 skills together – adjust behavior to impact other people to develop relationships.
Today’s Challenge: Which of these emotional skills is the one you need to work on the most? Self-Awareness, Self- Management, Social Awareness, or Relationship Management?