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Debbie and I are in a new and exciting season of life. It is the first time I do not own or run businesses or have kids or grandkids living at home. It will be a GREAT season, but we have learned to enjoy every season. We have learned to enjoy the journey. My outlook...

The truth is most of my prayers with Debbie are at meals! We should pray more together; the sooner you start that, the better. You have some guidelines in the pages to follow. You could also pray blessings over them. Numbers 6:24-26 (GW) “The LORD will bless you and...

One night, When Debbie and I were first married, we got into a conflict that I thought I should have won, like always. We were still conversing when it became bedtime, so I decided to sleep on the couch. I thought she would tell me she was sorry the whole night and to...

#1 - Companionship. True companionship grows out of the oneness of spirit. Amos 3:3 (NKJV) “Can two walk together unless they are agreed?” Companionship is about being good company for the person you’ve chosen to share your life with. Couples that are good companions...

The problem with knowing God’s purpose for marriage is most Christians and non-Christians do not know God’s primary purpose for marriage. As you read this chapter, you will learn at least six primary purposes for marriage. Before you read the chapter, why don’t you...

#1 - Go to church together every Sunday apart from vacation and emergency. Psalm 127:1 (GW) “If the LORD does not build (your marriage) the house, it is useless for the builders to work on it. If the LORD does not protect a (your marriage) city, it is useless for the...

This is a hard one for me because we loved each other before we got into church, but it was hard to stay on track. When you’re first married, you have great emotional love, but true, lasting love is more than an emotional love; it’s more an action. When we were first...

How can we stop judging others so much? How can we stop sowing judgment and condemnation? Assume the Best If you are about to get upset and start judging and condemning, stop and tell yourself, I will assume the best about that person and the situation. I wish I had...

How I wish I had known, believed, and applied this principle 50 years ago. In all honesty I believed give back what you’re getting and then some. I believed win at all costs. If Debbie raised her voice I could do it louder; if she was a little ugly (not saying she...

Relationships are also known as AHM relationships. A-The couple has a strong couple identity but very little individual self-identity. They lean on one another: They are structured so that if one lets go, the other falls. H-Partners stand alone, each self-sufficient,...

When couples get married they ALL have myths they believe. They may not admit it but they all do. You think you will fight less, have sex more, and always speak kind words to each other, or, if you’re not being kind to each other now, you falsely believe you will...

If you want to have an exceptional marriage, it will take doing some exceptional things. I do not think you can have the relationship God wants you to have with each other apart from an exceptional relationship with Christ. You can’t depend on your mate’s relationship...

If You Want A Successful Marriage and One that Lasts You Will Need to Know What Real Biblical Love Is: What many call love today is nothing more than lust and infatuation: We have free material if you are dating or a young person and want to know the difference...

The first crucial secret of a successful marriage is what happens after marriage. It’s great if you can afford a beautiful wedding and honeymoon, but rest assured, that’s not what will make a successful marriage. When I say successful marriage after 50 years, my wife...

Why guard our hearts? It affects every area of our lives. Our hearts expose the areas where we need God’s help. If I’m having financial problems, marriage problems, anger problems, worry, stress, jealousy, sexual immorality, insecurity, and even wrong priorities, they...

Fifty years ago, I really believe most of our problems were people, places and things. By that I mean I really believed when I had a marriage problem the problem was the marriage. When I had a finance problem, it was a finance problem. When I had a work or job...

Acknowledge your anger. (Yes, admit it) Backtrack the primary emotion or cause. (This can be very hard at first, but very eye opening) Sadness, loneliness, disappointment, wrong expectations, feeling attacked, embarrassment, feeling unloved, jealousy, disrespected,...

Conflict – two or more people trying to occupy the same space or control the same resources. Insight about conflict, wars, and fighting The truth behind most if not all conflict is control – both want to control the same thing. (Money – Children – Time – ect.) Both...