Acceptable and Comparative Hatred

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Luke 14:26, NKJV “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.”

An acceptable hatred comes when you love and serve God that brings significance and satisfaction that you cannot find in any other place. Love is the opposite of hate. You cannot come to Jesus if you don’t love Him more than your Father, mother, wife, children, brothers, sisters, and even your own life.

Comparative hatred is acceptable hatred. We are not to actively hate anyone.

Matthew 5:43-45, NKJV “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and the unjust.”

If you are spiritually healthy, you don’t hate people; you help people.

Hurting people, hurt people.

Insecure people need attention and reassurance.

Healthy people want to help people.

Insignificant people and unsatisfied people are selfish people and seldom serve others.

Galatians 5:13, NKJV “For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.”

The Challenge:

  • Pray for those who have hurt you. 
  • Begin proper habits.
  • Commit to serving in the church.
  • Commit your life to Jesus as your Savior.

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